Getting engaged to your loved one is one of the biggest steps in any relationship, but knowing when the right time is to take the plunge can be very difficult to determine. Ask your girlfriend or boyfriend too early and you can risk them feeling ill at ease, and be declined; it could even push your partner to seriously consider whether they want to continue with the relationship if they feel that you are pressuring them into unwanted commitment.
So, how do you know if it is the right time to take your relationship to the next level? To be frank, the 'right time' is not going to be the same for all couples. Some couples believe that they know within a very short period of time that they are able to make a long term commitment to each other; other couples may believe that they need a few years to be truly sure that they would be making the right decision.
If you want to know how your partner feels about this without actually asking them directly, you could approach the subject indirectly to 'test the water' so to speak. One way you could do this is by bringing up the subject of marriage in a less-than-direct way, for example by discussing the relationship of a friend or family member that has recently decided to get engaged to their partner. The idea is to try to find out your partner's feeling on the subject without directly asking them how they would feel about getting married. The problem with this is that any answer that you get can be distorted and you should never assume that how they feel about other peoples' relationships would be the same as your relationship.
Ultimately you need to take a step back from the relationship and look at how you two have been getting along. Are you personally happy with the relationship? How would you feel about the lifelong commitment of marriage? Does marriage sound too 'final' for you, or would you feel too restricted by legally binding yourself to another person? The big question of all to answer, which can help to determine the answers to all other questions, is 'do you truly love this person with all your heart?'
If you find that you get on very well with your partner, you feel as though you are both best friends with each other and you would happily do anything to make them happy then the answer is obvious. Marriage is a long term commitment, but while some people consider it to be too restricting, in fact it can be quite the opposite. Being married can make you feel that you can take on the world with your partner and can open the door to a life you had never envisioned.
So, how do you know if it is the right time to take your relationship to the next level? To be frank, the 'right time' is not going to be the same for all couples. Some couples believe that they know within a very short period of time that they are able to make a long term commitment to each other; other couples may believe that they need a few years to be truly sure that they would be making the right decision.
If you want to know how your partner feels about this without actually asking them directly, you could approach the subject indirectly to 'test the water' so to speak. One way you could do this is by bringing up the subject of marriage in a less-than-direct way, for example by discussing the relationship of a friend or family member that has recently decided to get engaged to their partner. The idea is to try to find out your partner's feeling on the subject without directly asking them how they would feel about getting married. The problem with this is that any answer that you get can be distorted and you should never assume that how they feel about other peoples' relationships would be the same as your relationship.
Ultimately you need to take a step back from the relationship and look at how you two have been getting along. Are you personally happy with the relationship? How would you feel about the lifelong commitment of marriage? Does marriage sound too 'final' for you, or would you feel too restricted by legally binding yourself to another person? The big question of all to answer, which can help to determine the answers to all other questions, is 'do you truly love this person with all your heart?'
If you find that you get on very well with your partner, you feel as though you are both best friends with each other and you would happily do anything to make them happy then the answer is obvious. Marriage is a long term commitment, but while some people consider it to be too restricting, in fact it can be quite the opposite. Being married can make you feel that you can take on the world with your partner and can open the door to a life you had never envisioned.
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