Marital affairs normally initiate very intense emotional feelings in the betrayed partner. Betrayal as well as deception is the most common feeling. Feelings of humiliation will also set in.
The thought of sexual acts that have taken place is what affects a person most. This is because of the violation of trust that it reminds one of. At some point a feeling of anger will raise its head and often when this is joined with the feeling of humiliation and betrayal, reconciliation may be impossible.
Often the reason why it happened will be asked. The betrayed partner will want to know what caused this to happen. They will want to know how long the affair has been going on and the circumstances surrounding the initiation of the affair.
Often affairs are not based on sex, but on unmet needs. Sex may well be the initial prod, but if the affair goes beyond that, there must be some deeper need that is not being fulfilled at home. Intimacy is important in any marriage. It is the bond that links people spiritually, emotionally and sexually.
These are normally the feelings that form the basis of a relationship. Individuals have the need to feel valued, cherished and loved. They also want their partner to have respect for them. An affair will make the betrayed partner feel that there is no respect there at all. An open line of effective communication has to be present between the partners in order for them to work through their problems and get to know each other at a deeper level. Their emotional ties have to be strong enough for them to be able to face the pressures of life as it is today. This strong commitment to each other could be the factor that will prevent extra-marital affairs.
Affairs can destroy a marriage if there is no other emotional reason for a couple to stay together. Often discussing the reasons why the affair took place may help. However, partners will only be able to discuss those reasons rationally if they have a deeper level of commitment and understanding between them.
The thought of sexual acts that have taken place is what affects a person most. This is because of the violation of trust that it reminds one of. At some point a feeling of anger will raise its head and often when this is joined with the feeling of humiliation and betrayal, reconciliation may be impossible.
Often the reason why it happened will be asked. The betrayed partner will want to know what caused this to happen. They will want to know how long the affair has been going on and the circumstances surrounding the initiation of the affair.
Often affairs are not based on sex, but on unmet needs. Sex may well be the initial prod, but if the affair goes beyond that, there must be some deeper need that is not being fulfilled at home. Intimacy is important in any marriage. It is the bond that links people spiritually, emotionally and sexually.
These are normally the feelings that form the basis of a relationship. Individuals have the need to feel valued, cherished and loved. They also want their partner to have respect for them. An affair will make the betrayed partner feel that there is no respect there at all. An open line of effective communication has to be present between the partners in order for them to work through their problems and get to know each other at a deeper level. Their emotional ties have to be strong enough for them to be able to face the pressures of life as it is today. This strong commitment to each other could be the factor that will prevent extra-marital affairs.
Affairs can destroy a marriage if there is no other emotional reason for a couple to stay together. Often discussing the reasons why the affair took place may help. However, partners will only be able to discuss those reasons rationally if they have a deeper level of commitment and understanding between them.
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