NLP: Re-framing methodology and 1 exercise
Recall that our "map" are all our experiences, memories and lessons that mark us where to move us. So the things which we live just are the reaction that we have before them. Things are not as they're but as we are.
Now, how to challenge our views? How to learn how to translate reality from another viewpoint?
Today we'll see an exercise that I really like, is good for when we receive "critical" and that if Mr Lopez had known ... Maybe the end of the story would have been different;)
NLP Exercise: How Replying to feedback
Many folks see "How can we not react badly to criticism?" or rather, the right way to dissociate feedback or negative comment?
First, remember that things are neither positive nor negative. When we associate with a situation or words is linked with the emotion that caused us when it happened. A classic example is the music, where folks remember with great emotion certain song, not the tune itself but by the association that had the tune with a special moment in your life. (trabajos por internet)
But when faced with feedback, that does not affect us, it is really important to learn to look at it from a distant view from "outside", dissociate from it. EduynLabino
Now, how can we do?
Let's start with this little exercise:
Step 1: Select a latest situation where you felt uncomfortable with criticism or negative comment.
Step 2: Draw the scene in your head (where are the characters?, What was around?)
Step 3: Write down what the person told you, LITERALLY (neither more nor less than what you heard)
Step 4: Be dissociated from the scene and decides whether to think about or ignore the comment.
Here the key questions are:
a. I'll learn something from this comment?, If so , what?
b. Is it worth it to make a response to a comment?, If that is the case what?
Step 5: Outline what new behavior will choose to face this sort of feedback. What would be a positive attitude to adopt from this time on?
Step 6: Visualise yourself with this new perspective. What position would you like to have? What's your approach?
As an example, one technique that can be used is that of glass. Imagine a thin but resistant glass that separates you from the speaker, which can let you get positive feedback and growth but does not let the criticism, glass block them and you don't hear them. What do you actually think?
Try this exercise and tell me, you can use for family, friends and colleagues. Do it is extremely strong and will help you change how you view things.
Recall that our "map" are all our experiences, memories and lessons that mark us where to move us. So the things which we live just are the reaction that we have before them. Things are not as they're but as we are.
Now, how to challenge our views? How to learn how to translate reality from another viewpoint?
Today we'll see an exercise that I really like, is good for when we receive "critical" and that if Mr Lopez had known ... Maybe the end of the story would have been different;)
NLP Exercise: How Replying to feedback
Many folks see "How can we not react badly to criticism?" or rather, the right way to dissociate feedback or negative comment?
First, remember that things are neither positive nor negative. When we associate with a situation or words is linked with the emotion that caused us when it happened. A classic example is the music, where folks remember with great emotion certain song, not the tune itself but by the association that had the tune with a special moment in your life. (trabajos por internet)
But when faced with feedback, that does not affect us, it is really important to learn to look at it from a distant view from "outside", dissociate from it. EduynLabino
Now, how can we do?
Let's start with this little exercise:
Step 1: Select a latest situation where you felt uncomfortable with criticism or negative comment.
Step 2: Draw the scene in your head (where are the characters?, What was around?)
Step 3: Write down what the person told you, LITERALLY (neither more nor less than what you heard)
Step 4: Be dissociated from the scene and decides whether to think about or ignore the comment.
Here the key questions are:
a. I'll learn something from this comment?, If so , what?
b. Is it worth it to make a response to a comment?, If that is the case what?
Step 5: Outline what new behavior will choose to face this sort of feedback. What would be a positive attitude to adopt from this time on?
Step 6: Visualise yourself with this new perspective. What position would you like to have? What's your approach?
As an example, one technique that can be used is that of glass. Imagine a thin but resistant glass that separates you from the speaker, which can let you get positive feedback and growth but does not let the criticism, glass block them and you don't hear them. What do you actually think?
Try this exercise and tell me, you can use for family, friends and colleagues. Do it is extremely strong and will help you change how you view things.
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