All too often, marriages end in divorce because stress builds to a point that's so overwhelming for the couple, they feel they have no way to control it. This comes about when they lose control and burst out their disappointments. These continue until the couple can no longer live with their spouse. Many marriages can be saved if people can show more patience and understanding to the shortcomings of their partners. Stress in the home that can lead to break ups are mostly due to the following issues: Finances
Many broken marriages can be traced back to disagreements over money. This is easy to understand because money is the one factor that affects people's daily lives. It is understandable to worry about money, but not to the point of letting it break up your marriage.
Learn how to live within your means. Don't even think of buying a new car if your finances will not allow it. Strike a balance between your income and expenses. Make sure your bills get paid each month and then use some of what's left over to buy those unnecessary items or put it away into savings and save up for that new car you want.
A credit card increases your purchasing power, just use it judiciously. If needed, check with a credit counseling agency and see if you can get your credit card debt consolidated so you make only one payment vs. making three or four. Child care Most couples have frequent arguments about how to discipline a child when they've done something wrong or how to bring them up in this world. They would try to impose their own concept of what is right and wrong. The problem is they have contrasting views, so they end up squabbling endlessly. Instead, you should bring them to the table, coming up with a compromise to bring the two values together and personalizing them to make it work for your family. Remember, what worked for your parents won't always work for you. You will be relieved from the stress that commonly afflict parents when you agree on how best to rear your child.
Hiding your emotions
There will be constant friction if couples are secretive and do not communicate with each other. Pent-up anger will manifest in your body language which can be misinterpreted and result to a confrontation. Don't keep them inside. There is nothing that you cannot agree upon if you have open communication.
Innumerable causes make marriage especially vulnerable to stress. At some point, you may have to seek help from a marriage counselor. They can help cope with the stress in your marriage. You can better preserve your marriage if you are able handle stress.
Many broken marriages can be traced back to disagreements over money. This is easy to understand because money is the one factor that affects people's daily lives. It is understandable to worry about money, but not to the point of letting it break up your marriage.
Learn how to live within your means. Don't even think of buying a new car if your finances will not allow it. Strike a balance between your income and expenses. Make sure your bills get paid each month and then use some of what's left over to buy those unnecessary items or put it away into savings and save up for that new car you want.
A credit card increases your purchasing power, just use it judiciously. If needed, check with a credit counseling agency and see if you can get your credit card debt consolidated so you make only one payment vs. making three or four. Child care Most couples have frequent arguments about how to discipline a child when they've done something wrong or how to bring them up in this world. They would try to impose their own concept of what is right and wrong. The problem is they have contrasting views, so they end up squabbling endlessly. Instead, you should bring them to the table, coming up with a compromise to bring the two values together and personalizing them to make it work for your family. Remember, what worked for your parents won't always work for you. You will be relieved from the stress that commonly afflict parents when you agree on how best to rear your child.
Hiding your emotions
There will be constant friction if couples are secretive and do not communicate with each other. Pent-up anger will manifest in your body language which can be misinterpreted and result to a confrontation. Don't keep them inside. There is nothing that you cannot agree upon if you have open communication.
Innumerable causes make marriage especially vulnerable to stress. At some point, you may have to seek help from a marriage counselor. They can help cope with the stress in your marriage. You can better preserve your marriage if you are able handle stress.
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