You are heartbroken and you feel that things are beyond hope. The love of your life has left you and all you have is a dark hole where your heart used to be. While you might feel that your life is over, you do know that it is possible to get over the heartache. In time your heart will heal. But what can you do to speed the process along? What can be done so you can start to live your life again and begin to feel normal again? Even though you feel like you're never going to get over this break up, there are things you can do to help yourself to heal.
Maybe you hope to get back together with your ex or you just want to move on and forget about them, healing your heart is the first step in both instances. Dealing with the emotions from a devastating break up is necessary if you hope to move on and if you hope to get your ex back. Chances are you were nothing like this when you first met the love of your life and right now you're present mental state doesn't give you an advantage to either move on or get your ex back. The sooner you get feeling better about yourself, the sooner you can begin living again and then make the decision about what you want to do with your life. The time is not to deal with the pain and anger from your breakup.
While anger is a good sign that you're starting to feel better about yourself, acting out from that anger probably isn't the thing to do right now. Calling your ex up or confronting them about what they've done to your life might feel good for about five minutes but you will probably regret it later. Once you start feeling better about yourself you might find that you have some anger to deal with but lashing out at your ex or anything that reminds you of your ex is not the way to deal with it. If you struggle with your anger just know that you're starting to heal and realize that there will be times when you feel overwhelmed with this emotion and then times when you feel guilty for feeling this way.
Know that no matter what happened before the break up, chances are you didn't deserve to be dumped. You are a good person and you were good enough for your ex to say that they would love you, right? What happened? Love doesn't simply disappear. Maybe you made a mistake or did something wrong but don't you deserve to be forgiven? Maybe you tried too hard to make things right or it was too little too late but don't you think that you deserve a second chance? Once you start to get feeling better about yourself and start loving yourself you will begin to feel some anger and resentment towards your ex for quitting on you and your relationship.
One good exercise that you can use to heal your broken heart is to thoroughly dissect your ex's personality. If you have a difficult time being critical of your ex and you have this picture in your mind that your ex was perfect or didn't do anything wrong then you are mistaken. We all have flaws and some of us are extremely flawed. You might still be in love with your ex and that's fine but realize that your ex isn't perfect and that your ex does still have flaws. Now, take some time and actually write a list of your ex's flaws to help yourself to see these flaws and thus heal your broken heart even more.
If you feel stuck, think about little things that your ex did wrong like little comments that they made that really hurt you or maybe a time when you didn't feel so important in their life. Think of a time when you did something special for them and the kindness was not returned. Look at some pictures of your ex and realize that there are other people out there more attractive than your ex that are lonely who would have been happy to get the attention and love that you gave so freely to your ex. Be ruthless in your critcism of your ex and dig deep to discover everything that ever bothered you about your ex and your relationship. Your ex is a human being, no different than you with all the same faults and shortcomings.
Right now you are probably still very much in love with your ex. That's fine. It's actually a good thing. In the end, the choice will be up to you whether you want to get back together with your ex and these exercises will help you to regain your self confidence and relax a little bit about actually getting your ex back. But in the meantime, you need to understand that your ex isn't the last person on the face of the planet. There are other people out there just as nice as your ex who would be happy to get to know you and who might even fall in love with you. Most of us are attracted to a person physically before anything else so spend a little time at least looking at what's out there. It really will help you heal your broken heart.
Even though you are going to feel weird about this, take a look at some online dating websites. Just surf some of the profiles of people that are looking for someone and imagine what it would be like to have one of these people fall in love with you. You might have a bit of a knee-jerk reaction and say that you don't want anyone other than your ex and that's fine but go take a look anyway. These sites are full of people desperate to meet someone nice who is loving and caring and serious about a relationship. Remember that you do have options and remove some of the power that your ex has over you right now.
It really isn't important right now whether you hope to get back together with your ex or not. The important thing is healing your heart and getting back to being you again. You need to smile and laugh and regain your composure. Life is about living and the sooner you work through some of these emotions the sooner you will begin to feel better about yourself. The sooner you start loving yourself the sooner someone else is going to love you back. It doesn't matter if that someone is your ex or someone that you haven't even met yet.
Maybe you hope to get back together with your ex or you just want to move on and forget about them, healing your heart is the first step in both instances. Dealing with the emotions from a devastating break up is necessary if you hope to move on and if you hope to get your ex back. Chances are you were nothing like this when you first met the love of your life and right now you're present mental state doesn't give you an advantage to either move on or get your ex back. The sooner you get feeling better about yourself, the sooner you can begin living again and then make the decision about what you want to do with your life. The time is not to deal with the pain and anger from your breakup.
While anger is a good sign that you're starting to feel better about yourself, acting out from that anger probably isn't the thing to do right now. Calling your ex up or confronting them about what they've done to your life might feel good for about five minutes but you will probably regret it later. Once you start feeling better about yourself you might find that you have some anger to deal with but lashing out at your ex or anything that reminds you of your ex is not the way to deal with it. If you struggle with your anger just know that you're starting to heal and realize that there will be times when you feel overwhelmed with this emotion and then times when you feel guilty for feeling this way.
Know that no matter what happened before the break up, chances are you didn't deserve to be dumped. You are a good person and you were good enough for your ex to say that they would love you, right? What happened? Love doesn't simply disappear. Maybe you made a mistake or did something wrong but don't you deserve to be forgiven? Maybe you tried too hard to make things right or it was too little too late but don't you think that you deserve a second chance? Once you start to get feeling better about yourself and start loving yourself you will begin to feel some anger and resentment towards your ex for quitting on you and your relationship.
One good exercise that you can use to heal your broken heart is to thoroughly dissect your ex's personality. If you have a difficult time being critical of your ex and you have this picture in your mind that your ex was perfect or didn't do anything wrong then you are mistaken. We all have flaws and some of us are extremely flawed. You might still be in love with your ex and that's fine but realize that your ex isn't perfect and that your ex does still have flaws. Now, take some time and actually write a list of your ex's flaws to help yourself to see these flaws and thus heal your broken heart even more.
If you feel stuck, think about little things that your ex did wrong like little comments that they made that really hurt you or maybe a time when you didn't feel so important in their life. Think of a time when you did something special for them and the kindness was not returned. Look at some pictures of your ex and realize that there are other people out there more attractive than your ex that are lonely who would have been happy to get the attention and love that you gave so freely to your ex. Be ruthless in your critcism of your ex and dig deep to discover everything that ever bothered you about your ex and your relationship. Your ex is a human being, no different than you with all the same faults and shortcomings.
Right now you are probably still very much in love with your ex. That's fine. It's actually a good thing. In the end, the choice will be up to you whether you want to get back together with your ex and these exercises will help you to regain your self confidence and relax a little bit about actually getting your ex back. But in the meantime, you need to understand that your ex isn't the last person on the face of the planet. There are other people out there just as nice as your ex who would be happy to get to know you and who might even fall in love with you. Most of us are attracted to a person physically before anything else so spend a little time at least looking at what's out there. It really will help you heal your broken heart.
Even though you are going to feel weird about this, take a look at some online dating websites. Just surf some of the profiles of people that are looking for someone and imagine what it would be like to have one of these people fall in love with you. You might have a bit of a knee-jerk reaction and say that you don't want anyone other than your ex and that's fine but go take a look anyway. These sites are full of people desperate to meet someone nice who is loving and caring and serious about a relationship. Remember that you do have options and remove some of the power that your ex has over you right now.
It really isn't important right now whether you hope to get back together with your ex or not. The important thing is healing your heart and getting back to being you again. You need to smile and laugh and regain your composure. Life is about living and the sooner you work through some of these emotions the sooner you will begin to feel better about yourself. The sooner you start loving yourself the sooner someone else is going to love you back. It doesn't matter if that someone is your ex or someone that you haven't even met yet.
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